tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-81908523887182757132024-03-14T11:10:31.107-07:00Pencilnpen-Me Between the sheetsThe days and nights of written life between times of working on novels.Ey Wadehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04410026742901835948noreply@blogger.comBlogger44125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8190852388718275713.post-56787977446667684272014-12-11T12:44:00.000-08:002014-12-12T03:43:49.760-08:00Playing Hide and Not Go Seek <div dir="ltr">
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I was thinking of Mom yesterday morning, as if I don't think of her about a million times a minute, and the many new memories I have of her.<br />
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Mom and Pinoch, the oldest and the youngest. The two who were so much alike in attitude and ways and the way they interacted. The way they accepted and rejected each other. The constant "I'm not playing with you," followed by the shouts of pretend battle. The way Mom would poke him with her cane when he sat quiet (finally), and the game would continue. <br />
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I'm going to miss him gathering his "books to read to Granny," Kindle (to play games) and baby to lay on the bed while he kept Granny company as she watched TV in her room.</div>
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I sit in admiration at the way the three year old took it on as his duty, to stop whatever he was doing when he'd hear the tap of her cane coming from the other side of the house, and run to turn on the bathroom light. Then run back to grab her hand and walk with her to the bathroom. Or if she ventured out of her room without it, he would run to get it for her.<br />
I laugh at the memory of the occasions he would run ahead to hide inside claiming he had to go first. Their verbal battle would always end in laughter and a poke from the cane when he gave in and let her go first.<br />
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I think sadly of the few times he would be napping and she would be peeking around the corner looking for his swiftness and asking "where is he?" Only for her face to fall at our answer. I'm going to miss that and so many other interactions between those two. As I'm sure he will, now I watch his face fall when he says, "I only want to talk to her. "<br />
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I'm not going to miss how her waning memory had bothered her so much she was beginning to call herself, stupid.</div>
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I'm not going to miss the way she would bemoan the absence of her children. Those, who she often told me, "Were busy with their jobs and life." I understand that mindset of self comfort. It's life, people are busy, some can only deal with situations by keeping their minds full, and others are simply pure unadulterated, thieving, best forgotten, lying-assed, pieces of shit, who will not be thought of again. And yes, I do have a few anger issues. At least it's directed at one person.<br />
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I'm not going to miss watching her crumble when a Sunday has ended and the meal she cooked wasn't eaten by those she expected to visit or the phone didn’t ring because she didn't receive a call. I'm going to let that crap go, put it here and forget about it.</div>
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I'm also going to place the hurt, crushed part of my heart here. The part killed by words aimed to destroy a relationship. When a parent dies, siblings need to handle their own guilt without trying to hurt others. Nothing will repair it and I don't want that memory.<br />
I want to remember things like, how I was born to rise with the birds and would often go sit on the porch as a child and Mom would chew me out. Worried about me sitting out early in the morning without company and possibly being abducted or hurt. I love how she chose it as her time to leave. Now she will forever be, in my sunrise. Life never ends.<br />
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I'm going to miss my mom. Even though she could drive me crazy over who was the boss of whom, what she could still accomplish, whether or not she took her meds, and repeating childhood incidents better forgotten. I wouldn't trade the last seven months of being her companion, whipping girl, and confidant, for anything. </div>
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The year is almost over. Thank God. This has been a year from the freakin' pits of hell. Hard and dark.<br />
I can't even tell you how I have hated 2013. A year, in my opinion, that God sat back, nodded at whomever is in charge of bullcrap and sh#% days and said "have at it, do your damnedest ,cause as much havoc and mayhem as you can in her life and then let's see where she stands."<br />
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This fellow holds the brochure in his hand, and smiles. I wonder if I should even say anything about it or her to him.
There it sat quietly for days. Exactly where I carefully tucked it in the pocket behind the paraphenilia behind the driver's seat, reluctant to bring it in the house. Too afraid of the memories each tiny slice of life would bring, I rarely look at it..well not for too long. Too afraid of the tears, I push it down to suppress memories , he pulls it out and smiles. Where I touch it gingerly and linger wistfully over each picture, this fellow grabs it with both hands , twisting and turning as he recognizes faces and speaks jibberish. I see the past and all he sees is the happiness.. I pray for that mindset.Ey Wadehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04410026742901835948noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8190852388718275713.post-40928810442420822192013-03-26T04:08:00.000-07:002013-03-26T04:08:06.483-07:00The Phenominal Mind<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgNz5Th84SejveRMuWMkB6q516hoPR57w_ktX9jQGQqiny_jotpF4SqQtHlIRqLKdXcyLZHqSmSYuFptxlISyXvFy3gj9NMGpFc3sFjzET_mNHtzPZbi-oBp0YVQYNDUz7ddZQ36zLWp0pK/s1600/Time.JPG" imageanchor="1" ><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgNz5Th84SejveRMuWMkB6q516hoPR57w_ktX9jQGQqiny_jotpF4SqQtHlIRqLKdXcyLZHqSmSYuFptxlISyXvFy3gj9NMGpFc3sFjzET_mNHtzPZbi-oBp0YVQYNDUz7ddZQ36zLWp0pK/s320/Time.JPG" /></a>There is a phenom of the unconscious mind that triggers a reaction in the human body, the conscious mind struggles to understand. 'It' is the rememberance of time. The time, hour, minute of a loved one's passing. It is that restless feeling that over comes you each month as that certain day looms nearer.
It sneaks on you with an overflow of memories and urges to call and/or visit. It brings unexpected sadness and rushes of tears. Makes you wonder why you're suddenly so miserable when you were "fine, okay, and doing so well"...as you like to tell the world.
I find this phenom intriguing. I marvel at the working of time on the human mind. The way that cord of relationship and recognition throbs with each of our heartbeats and pulls us a little closer to those going through the same cycle of longing and regret. The way that chord, that sour note of that unwanted, imagined alarm wakes us with the shrill cry, TODAY IS THE DAY!!
There is not a day that goes by that I wish a mistake has been made. That I am in a bad dream and none of this is real.
Grief takes time to adjust to, time I wish I could snooze through. If only there were a button.Ey Wadehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04410026742901835948noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8190852388718275713.post-80809900985797321512013-03-12T04:34:00.000-07:002013-03-12T04:34:14.812-07:00For Want of a Flower<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgrsxnjQajPq4v2BOxVDA2Za-ENTi6LnGrLnX6fFUXnNKKSor7Iegl5d6QSIitB_ZlKzP9G7aBgL_TUtTFxK9shDK4W-yhFkNPkFrgadi35zRQ-sKtnY9nqghn2-4H2B2T8-29W76VS8MV9/s1600/386833_454017177962974_1723023470_n.jpeg" imageanchor="1"><img border="0" height="200" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgrsxnjQajPq4v2BOxVDA2Za-ENTi6LnGrLnX6fFUXnNKKSor7Iegl5d6QSIitB_ZlKzP9G7aBgL_TUtTFxK9shDK4W-yhFkNPkFrgadi35zRQ-sKtnY9nqghn2-4H2B2T8-29W76VS8MV9/s200/386833_454017177962974_1723023470_n.jpeg" width="186" /></a><br />
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So I had this dream the other night , well not really a dream because I don't remember anything specific except the laughter. It was as if the room was full of laughter. I was surrounded and embraced in it. I don't know if I was a part of the joke or the joke. I never saw anyone, I just heard the laughter. And it felt joyous, light, wonderful and I literally felt myself chuckle. The way infants do in their sleep. And then I heard her laugh. It was so clear, so near, as if she were in the room and it woke me. ~~~~~~<br />
The funny thing is, earlier in the night I was telling a very comforting friend how truly sad I was. My every thought of Angela was making me want to cry. My every thought in life and sleep was cocooning me in the urge to cry. I was beginning to feel as if I were smothering...drowning. All I could see was tears. All I could dream were tears and I was crying so hard in my dreams to where my body shook, uncontrollably. Like a toddler who couldn't catch his breath after his wish wasn't met and his little heart was breaking. It was beginning to get worse with each passing moment. And then I felt the laughter. All day.<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgcZUkNmuJ6k8r80jDV8d3umIFNTPQZFRWEMxJFS4o_FfCZ31yRqt5PMVb5vclzBCPflr_xNbqN9q37CNfaPqKYxUcPUMzcpXOCGUvuhZoewFRVZK5YX2yjAzuD3QaEYhqe246fcNn9RgUW/s1600/100KC91395100951040.jpg" imageanchor="1"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEgcZUkNmuJ6k8r80jDV8d3umIFNTPQZFRWEMxJFS4o_FfCZ31yRqt5PMVb5vclzBCPflr_xNbqN9q37CNfaPqKYxUcPUMzcpXOCGUvuhZoewFRVZK5YX2yjAzuD3QaEYhqe246fcNn9RgUW/s320/100KC91395100951040.jpg" /></a>
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*On a humerous note: After Angela's passing, our baby sister Pansy found Angela had placed the pictures of herself on her camera.
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I can't believe how many days have passed. And yet it feels like yesterday. Tomorrow it will be a month and yet it feels like one day. The days have crawled along slowly, each as horrifically sad as the other. Time has flown by. All willy nilly without a moment of empathy or sympathy for those of us stuck in a rut of some form or other.<br />
Everyday you remember, feel, relive conversations and interactions and in doing so, you look at the clock and the minutes have gone as if in a whirlwind. People say, 'time heals' and that's really meant to be comforting, but I don't think its true. I think time teaches you how to bury your emotions. It teaches you how to adjust your mask so no one sees exactly how you feel. Time, gives you the moments to prepare for your Oscar winning performance. Where you're able to pretend all is well and life goes on a usual. And it does. In those slow dragging days it is best to find something to occupy your mind while your soul and spirit heals. Time won't let you forget, but it will help the remembering not be as painful.<br />
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So, I lay here at five in the morning and think of Angela and I'm not even gonna cry.<br />
All of my life I was the early riser and in recent years, she had also become a sun chasers. Calling in the wee hours and starting the conversation with' I know I'm not waking you' or 'I should've called you an hour ago'. We never talked about anything specific...our grandsons, the kids, siblings, Mom. But you know when people have a little anxiety. It's so much easier to talk about other things.<br />
I'm not even gonna cry. <br />
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I rarely come here to write. This is a page for those times nothing in life works and I have to rant and whine. This is one of those times. I have a bit of anger going on that I need to work through.<br />
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I will forever think of January as the darkest month.<br />
For
twenty years whenever the first day of the New Year rolled in I would
remember my dad had died New Year's Eve of 1992, he didn't get to see
the first day of '93.<br />
This January of 2013 rolled in with extreme
excitement . The past year had been awesome. The first year in years of
waiting for dreaded phone calls, that none came. Many happy days of
waking and not having any bad news concerning my sister's health. Great
parties and celebrations. The happy news my children's books would
finally 'be' in print . I texted my sister (the eldest one) immediately
after midnight to wish her a happy new year, joyously proclaiming how I
was seeing great things happening in 2013. She responded, in all caps-
FOR ALL OF US....not even two weeks later, the phone call came.<br />
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As
my sister (the youngest) and I rushed through the doors of the hospital
towards the elevators for ICU I had my head down responding to well
wishes from Facebook friends on my cell. Suddenly I could see my dad
walk past and I quickly turned around to see if maybe I had walked too
close to someone who resembled him and I would apologize. No one was
there. This was one of those, 'oh, Damn moments' you never want to face.
My unexpected movements caused my sister to stop,too. I explained what
I thought I saw and we brushed it off and continued on our way. I kept
that vision to myself, but I knew in that moment our life was going to
change.
Why else would he be there except to see his favorite daughter. Who else
would God send, but the man who angered her the most. It gave me
comfort to believe they had finally made up and Angela's soul would 'be'
at rest. Needless to say, I really wanted to believe 'he' was there to
comfort her and send her back to us. All the time I prayed for a miracle
and wanted every twitch to 'be' a good sign, I knew better.
I can't even explain the feelings of the days to come. Its as if life
exploded into a million fragments in a wind tunnel made from a black
plastic bag. You punch and fight to get out while trying to put your
life back together. Trying to hurry and put the pieces back together and
then get out of the bag before you smother in your sorrow. The only
thing that will save you is acceptance . Once you go through that door,
all else is easier. It doesn't get better, nothing really changes but it
seems easier, the weight of grief is gone, the days feel brighter and
the new normal seems promising. I still see great things happening this
2013 I just see them from a different angle.<br />
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I have to say, when my time comes and if God sends the one person who
irritated me so much in life that every time I saw or thought of him I
wanted to spit, God and I will box for sure.
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Ey Wadehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04410026742901835948noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8190852388718275713.post-24999793937263534922011-07-11T06:42:00.000-07:002011-07-11T06:42:41.164-07:00And, yet I WriteNothing in life has changed, and yet I continue to write. Thoughts flow through my head like the waterfall over the Niagara and I must pen it.<br />
YES, I said, pen. It is my mode of securing my thoughts. I wake at 2-3a in the morn fighting off sleep and the voices clambering to be heard. After all, I am a writer. In word and deed if not in finances.<br />
So, I must go now and do some marketing. It is Manic Monday Marketing day.Ey Wadehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04410026742901835948noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8190852388718275713.post-56743773184820916462011-06-07T18:56:00.000-07:002011-06-07T18:56:29.864-07:00Pounding PavementOkay, so school is out for summer. That means no more in home care giving I must find an outside job. I hate job searching.Ey Wadehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04410026742901835948noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8190852388718275713.post-52905176266131500322011-04-20T02:31:00.000-07:002011-04-20T02:31:11.157-07:00living without power-day 10<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhJvdkcuEjwiwyZY-LPUJBz_i-60_hYM0PzoUTH-qn5n7KaccyxwpwHGgohBm7aOWN6OS0elTinfnjDpu0NNn1pLmoQ4B3Tp4rOHqn-ylPNVgJt0ng79_mNsBG_5DnjMQwy2b5WYUiwX5FQ/s1600/burned+down+candle.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhJvdkcuEjwiwyZY-LPUJBz_i-60_hYM0PzoUTH-qn5n7KaccyxwpwHGgohBm7aOWN6OS0elTinfnjDpu0NNn1pLmoQ4B3Tp4rOHqn-ylPNVgJt0ng79_mNsBG_5DnjMQwy2b5WYUiwX5FQ/s1600/burned+down+candle.jpg" /></a></div>So, today a little power returned. I breath cool refreshness. I am happy and yet sad. Another piece of me...my life had to be sacrificed. True it was only a thing, but everything is a piece of you. A tiny substance that holds you together. Today some power returned.Ey Wadehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04410026742901835948noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8190852388718275713.post-84653372439343732322011-04-18T03:20:00.000-07:002011-04-18T03:20:32.931-07:00living without power-days 4-7<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhJvdkcuEjwiwyZY-LPUJBz_i-60_hYM0PzoUTH-qn5n7KaccyxwpwHGgohBm7aOWN6OS0elTinfnjDpu0NNn1pLmoQ4B3Tp4rOHqn-ylPNVgJt0ng79_mNsBG_5DnjMQwy2b5WYUiwX5FQ/s1600/burned+down+candle.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhJvdkcuEjwiwyZY-LPUJBz_i-60_hYM0PzoUTH-qn5n7KaccyxwpwHGgohBm7aOWN6OS0elTinfnjDpu0NNn1pLmoQ4B3Tp4rOHqn-ylPNVgJt0ng79_mNsBG_5DnjMQwy2b5WYUiwX5FQ/s1600/burned+down+candle.jpg" /></a></div>Learned a bowl of water resting on the removable grill burner of the stove above four candles can heat and cook. Amazing. Being without power is can be more than a pyhsical thing. It manifest into mental where in which you can lose yourself. If one is not careful the reign ofpower can easily be placed in the hands of another. Even without poweryou must control your own destiny. Don't sell yourself or your items short just so the light will shine for you again. Bad doesn't last forever. At least that's what they say.Ey Wadehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04410026742901835948noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8190852388718275713.post-79307142815688108802011-04-14T14:03:00.000-07:002011-04-14T14:04:30.279-07:00living without power-day3<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhJvdkcuEjwiwyZY-LPUJBz_i-60_hYM0PzoUTH-qn5n7KaccyxwpwHGgohBm7aOWN6OS0elTinfnjDpu0NNn1pLmoQ4B3Tp4rOHqn-ylPNVgJt0ng79_mNsBG_5DnjMQwy2b5WYUiwX5FQ/s1600/burned+down+candle.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhJvdkcuEjwiwyZY-LPUJBz_i-60_hYM0PzoUTH-qn5n7KaccyxwpwHGgohBm7aOWN6OS0elTinfnjDpu0NNn1pLmoQ4B3Tp4rOHqn-ylPNVgJt0ng79_mNsBG_5DnjMQwy2b5WYUiwX5FQ/s1600/burned+down+candle.jpg" /></a></div>The power eludes me. I have none and am not the controller of anthing beyond my attitude. I will not be broken. Eventually God will remember us and come to our rescue. It is all resting in His hands. I just wish He would stop playing hand games so I can get back to the act of living in the real world.Ey Wadehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04410026742901835948noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8190852388718275713.post-20343577608989205922011-04-13T06:39:00.000-07:002011-04-13T08:46:32.140-07:00living without power-day2<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhJvdkcuEjwiwyZY-LPUJBz_i-60_hYM0PzoUTH-qn5n7KaccyxwpwHGgohBm7aOWN6OS0elTinfnjDpu0NNn1pLmoQ4B3Tp4rOHqn-ylPNVgJt0ng79_mNsBG_5DnjMQwy2b5WYUiwX5FQ/s1600/burned+down+candle.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhJvdkcuEjwiwyZY-LPUJBz_i-60_hYM0PzoUTH-qn5n7KaccyxwpwHGgohBm7aOWN6OS0elTinfnjDpu0NNn1pLmoQ4B3Tp4rOHqn-ylPNVgJt0ng79_mNsBG_5DnjMQwy2b5WYUiwX5FQ/s1600/burned+down+candle.jpg" /></a></div>Okay, so this really sucks. Been here and done this before and it still sucks. Tried to get help before power diminished and was told since I worked from home I couldn't get any help. It is considered a business and they don't help businesses. What a crock.<br />
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Woke up very early and couldn't see the light. Both literally and figuratively. Where is my light?Ey Wadehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04410026742901835948noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8190852388718275713.post-44220445292597927782011-04-12T12:29:00.000-07:002011-04-13T06:40:27.216-07:00living without power-day 1<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhJvdkcuEjwiwyZY-LPUJBz_i-60_hYM0PzoUTH-qn5n7KaccyxwpwHGgohBm7aOWN6OS0elTinfnjDpu0NNn1pLmoQ4B3Tp4rOHqn-ylPNVgJt0ng79_mNsBG_5DnjMQwy2b5WYUiwX5FQ/s1600/burned+down+candle.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhJvdkcuEjwiwyZY-LPUJBz_i-60_hYM0PzoUTH-qn5n7KaccyxwpwHGgohBm7aOWN6OS0elTinfnjDpu0NNn1pLmoQ4B3Tp4rOHqn-ylPNVgJt0ng79_mNsBG_5DnjMQwy2b5WYUiwX5FQ/s1600/burned+down+candle.jpg" /></a></div>In all heartfelt sanity I have to say God sucks. With all of the supposed power He possess He fails consistently when it comes to proving himself to me. It is said we are to 'test' Him. assiming this means to believe Him. I'm finding this extremely hard to do when I follow His word and yet everything keeps falling apart. What the shot in hell?<br />
It always seems as if the nonbeliever walks around with his little bucket over flowing with treasure while stuck a hole in my bucket the size of Texas. What the shit in hell! Gotta go. Have to take the battery outta my cell before it dies.Ey Wadehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04410026742901835948noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8190852388718275713.post-35398904871421346972011-04-04T18:58:00.000-07:002011-04-04T19:00:43.707-07:00The Gap is Small<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj0DXWpgZbr4XxAh9bhw3kggin6N5vjfbMit8c9es0LjyD5N-Ye4paX318JKx7Vx59MN4Sx4SdibXmWvl35HwHvpSwFvpGwclbC-bRDpkUVdJCXiu2CZGk8KDQMkWoLr2TLox7TvviaYJWK/s1600/time.bmp" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" height="239" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEj0DXWpgZbr4XxAh9bhw3kggin6N5vjfbMit8c9es0LjyD5N-Ye4paX318JKx7Vx59MN4Sx4SdibXmWvl35HwHvpSwFvpGwclbC-bRDpkUVdJCXiu2CZGk8KDQMkWoLr2TLox7TvviaYJWK/s320/time.bmp" width="320" /></a></div>Nothing that improves finances has changed. So many new ideas explored and implemented and yet things remain the same. And a little worse. I would cry, but then I would be really sad.Ey Wadehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04410026742901835948noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8190852388718275713.post-44354512865531507702010-10-26T15:59:00.000-07:002010-10-26T15:59:41.997-07:00Blind ChangeI don't know when it happened. Hadn't been aware of it happening and nearly missed it. Gradually and inexplicably my blinding belief has begun disappearing. I guess it started at the loss of the home I loved so much and not being able to afford another of my own. Hurricanes can be such a damper on one's lifestyle. Maybe it began when I stopped listening to my favorite christian bands on my Ipod. I blame the trauma of the big delete.<br />
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I only know that where I used to run to God's Words as comfort, I now feel doubt and I guess a bit of anger. Now when I read words of praise, or hear songs doing the same I change songs, close blogs....move on. Its like an unconscious knee jerk reaction. I don't even think about it. Sometimes I'm able to catch myself and I stand still.My faith is still there. I know deep in my heart God could change things in a minute. I know this because everything I had home, business, income is now gone. I wish something good would happen soon.Ey Wadehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04410026742901835948noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8190852388718275713.post-89441613354496069312010-04-14T07:29:00.000-07:002010-04-14T07:31:19.029-07:00Lamenting<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEguJvP6TvcM5ffVWpGPVHjW9vsOPz3q_9CopeljkVIfmIYlYD7G-VtHk7w0MX9BHkLty1s69a981VDN647QDvY2ahiTW-GBRXfC-zForMVlPzn-pjFsDQC-Vcx8uGh0vlu24OLU08jcHxxv/s1600/L.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEguJvP6TvcM5ffVWpGPVHjW9vsOPz3q_9CopeljkVIfmIYlYD7G-VtHk7w0MX9BHkLty1s69a981VDN647QDvY2ahiTW-GBRXfC-zForMVlPzn-pjFsDQC-Vcx8uGh0vlu24OLU08jcHxxv/s320/L.jpg" /></a></div>Lord, can I please have a break. Don't just shine your blessings of a sunny day just on the land of the Earth. Would you please, please give me a break and show me some favor. What good is life when nothing good happens in life? What good is life when all around me are falling ill and funds have been depleted and You are not helping to pull me out of the hole. You, better than I know I can't help myself. I feel as if I have stepped out of the boat in to neck high waters and You have forgotten my name. I am tired, Lord.<br />
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Will You please look my way and remember me because I am trying hard to hold on to Your hand and remember You are there. I need a break.Ey Wadehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04410026742901835948noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8190852388718275713.post-26455429709978490092010-04-08T06:31:00.000-07:002010-04-08T06:31:45.238-07:00UghI am so frustrated I just can't think. There are so many opportunities out there. I have a great idea to start an online business, but I don't have a dollar to get started.<br />
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I have a chance to print and sell a few history books at a meeting, but don't have the money for ink or paper. The same for an outdoor market in June.<br />
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I can't figure out what the....what God wants. I wish He wouldn't give me ideas without the ability to fulfill them. Its frustrating. Let alone depressing.Ey Wadehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04410026742901835948noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8190852388718275713.post-10203275598212767392010-03-12T06:21:00.000-08:002010-04-14T07:36:07.168-07:00Sometimes a Word....I have really been avoiding posting on this site. Mainly because I have been deluding myself into believing if I post only the positive, things will improve greatly in life. I've been doing a great job at fooling myself.<br />
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Every morning the day arrives on a fresh page and I get up in glorious anticipation of something good happening and yet it ends on the same giant note of failure. Nothing good happens.<br />
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I haven't been able to figure out how to get over. I'm no longer the ruler of my life. Can't go out to get a different job because the car has died, the house I live in is beautiful and I am grateful to be here, but its not mine. I do miss having my own, but I'm sure God knows what He is doing. I just wish I knew what He wanted me to do.<br />
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I just have to remember, there's gold in them hills. Mountains can be chipped away until they're the size of pebbles and can be kicked away. Sometimes a word in a song very encouraging.<br />
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Over the years my mountains have been ENORMOUS. Thank God for the chisel.<br />
.Ey Wadehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04410026742901835948noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8190852388718275713.post-34006418501579427702009-12-22T04:46:00.000-08:002009-12-22T04:59:56.366-08:00IDIOTS WITH CHILDRENWell, the boys are gone. Their dad came to get them late Sunday night. He had called and said he would come on Sunday and I had them ready all day, just before bedtime he arrived. <br />
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The mom, anxious to keep up with a man who wants nothing to do with her had spent the entire Sunday afternoon instant messaging a grammatically murdered rant about the man. For over two months we'd had limited conversation with her and when it looked like the dad would be coming she couldn't stop sending messages. No, she wasn't worried about the children this was just a way to talk about the dad. I was so glad to see him at the door.<br />
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Yesterday, the dad called me four times within two hours. Another shock, this was as many times as he had called the entire time the children were living here. Apparently, instead of going to Beaumont with the little guys (a two hour trip) he decided to go to Woodville (even further)and the alternator on the car broke. This thirty year old man has a souped-up Impala with a stereo system that takes up the entire trunk space, gorgeous rims (she paid for), video screens throughout, a navigational system and nothing else to his name. No job, no food, no money. He's stuck in a town bumming money from an elderly dad living in a nursing home. Idiot.<br />
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I couldn't figure out why he was calling me and then it dawned. Each time he called he asked whether I had heard from the mother. When I did hear from the mom and told her how the children had been stranded with their dad in the cold, she spouted no regret for the children. She just killed the English language with further insults about the man. From what I could gather these idiots are using the children as a tool to fuel an argument. Whoever has them is the 'better' parent. In the end the silly mom boiled it all down to, she cares nothing about the dad and she has been talking to someone else for the past three months. The exact amount of time the boys have been gone . Neither worry about the children. Idiot too.<br />
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I asked the dad how the potty training was going and he said he had them in diapers. That idiot had the nerves to say he told the boys to just use it in their diapers. Well, there goes my work and their progress. One night and they are back in diapers.<br />
<a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjoI8o95b-GPm5qrRKs9wZYpbtmn2UZcVhWmy5gjlvBmWpbY_sAwMxtF7D-3LeuIF6CS6w44I8fGrNL8Vd8GiYkJUdCsVZq2qE_qa4TpHAcrwhdKx6_fA-CjmsIhDcLHkAfRrdkGsHUuBMf/s1600-h/IMG_0387.JPG" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjoI8o95b-GPm5qrRKs9wZYpbtmn2UZcVhWmy5gjlvBmWpbY_sAwMxtF7D-3LeuIF6CS6w44I8fGrNL8Vd8GiYkJUdCsVZq2qE_qa4TpHAcrwhdKx6_fA-CjmsIhDcLHkAfRrdkGsHUuBMf/s200/IMG_0387.JPG" /></a>I feel so sorry for all of those children. I wish they could pack their bags and runaway from home.Ey Wadehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04410026742901835948noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8190852388718275713.post-80474308912463440702009-12-15T03:49:00.000-08:002010-04-14T07:38:54.999-07:00And Santa Cried<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhUHyN1lGaBhNEPpVXGsD7FsWAqAllg5Tiu33UjkBdEfLmbKxfhWe_TGE6ot_Bk7hKn9qdpt4ikNfDyAadO6t6X5OAXQ_b_5KzoWBiKp36-sMmc5vA8Qr-BAzxecZZnupB98h4Nr3fxBMTi/s1600-h/cryingsantaac3.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="clear: left; float: left; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img border="0" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEhUHyN1lGaBhNEPpVXGsD7FsWAqAllg5Tiu33UjkBdEfLmbKxfhWe_TGE6ot_Bk7hKn9qdpt4ikNfDyAadO6t6X5OAXQ_b_5KzoWBiKp36-sMmc5vA8Qr-BAzxecZZnupB98h4Nr3fxBMTi/s320/cryingsantaac3.jpg" /></a></div>The boys were supposed to go to their dad for the weekend and then to Arkansas to spend Christmas with their mom, brother and sister. The mother instant messaged to say the grandmother doesn't want them to come because she doesn't want her water bill to go up. Seems the older brother is finally going to have cornea surgery after two years of blindness in his right eye from neglect of pink-eye.<br />
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I'm miserable for them. I'm sitting here listening to Third Day's song Revelation. The course begs for a revelation on what to do in life. It's a good thing the boys are so young and know nothing about Christmas. We hadn't even put up a tree or the decorations. everything sits boxed in the garage and worse I wasn't buying presents because it is just 'tight' this year. I'm really mad at their family.Ey Wadehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04410026742901835948noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8190852388718275713.post-26892602637312984412009-12-08T08:48:00.000-08:002009-12-08T08:48:49.847-08:00A Crutch or a Wall?How can you decide whether or not you are a crutch (someone who is an aid) or a wall (someone who lets a person lean on them as they are being lazy and irresponsible) to a person?<br />
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Last night I had decided I was going to call the twins father and tell him he had to come and get his boys. My keeping them has turned into an act of super convenience for him because he is not working or going to school.<br />
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This morning I talked to the father and found out he is about to have his lights turned off, phone turned off and since he has no job he may end up homeless. What does that mean about the boys?<br />
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A CRUTCH: Begins the care of the twins because both of their parents are unemployed, the father was in college and the mother was on medication for depression. The mother (living in another state) also has custody of two other little children. The hope is to give the mom a break and the father a hand.<br />
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A WALL: The parents have to be called and reminded to keep in contact with their children. Neither parent supplies needed items for the children and this includes food. Father quits school, still not working and doesn't take back children. The parent intends to sell the food stamps supplied to feed the children.<br />
Am I a crutch or a wall?Ey Wadehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04410026742901835948noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8190852388718275713.post-32203120627141989852009-12-04T05:29:00.000-08:002009-12-04T05:29:02.411-08:00I Can't Even Think of a TitleIn the last few years December has grown to be my unfavorite time of the year. Four years ago I bought a huge 10 feet artificial Christmas tree to celebrate surviving Hurricane Rita and the possible adoption of a little boy we had reared from infancy well he was taken back and given to someone who gave him to someone else (I learned life goes on) , last year I lost my home and home-based business and moved to a new and bigger city with much promise( I learned I need to learn more) and in two weeks we have to be out of the place we are in now. Can I just write a book?<br />
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I learned my daughters are resilient and intelligent. Gillean has bought a house. At twenty-three she is the proud owner of a three bedroom home with an in ground pool. I am learning a lot from her.Ey Wadehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04410026742901835948noreply@blogger.com1